Wednesday, August 13, 2008
UPDATE
Well, unfortunately we lost the lawsuit.. we lost the house. According to the lawyers... nothing more can be done. I am blogging from my phone... so this will be quick. But I can tell you this... Right now we have 15 days to get out.. we don't have any money and no where to go. On payday it looks like we'll get three storage lockers and stay in a campground till we do. We migt be going back to Indiana or staying up here... we don't know yet. Winter is coming the kids start school and I feel like a failure. My kids.. who by the way .. seem ok with this so far... better than me...... deserve a better mom and a home.. I can't believe this is happening. It may be a while till you hear from me again... but you all will be in my thoughts. Thank you for being my friend. Tammie
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Oh I'm so sorry tammie!
ReplyDeleteTammie, you know you can call if you need to. Any time.
ReplyDeleteIs there ANYTHING we can do to help? Let me know, ok?
Tammie my prayers are with you and your family please call
ReplyDeleteme if you can or if there is anything I can do to help, remember
that friendship is greater than pride! ((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))
I am so sorry! You are not a failure OR a bad mom! (((HUGS)))
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry~hugs..stay strong
ReplyDeleteI'm SO sorry!! You'll be in my thoughts and prayers!!
ReplyDeleteTammie!!! Seriously you are NOT a bad mother nor a failure. Dont you dare say things like that, I am sorry this is happening to you right now but it is not a negative reflection of you as a person, as a mother!!! AS A WIFE!!!! You guys will get through this, Your in my thoughts and prayers Tammie. You and your family! Stay strong, keep your head up and keep on truckin. You guys will come up with something to get you back on track!!!
ReplyDeleteOH I am so sorry Tammie! I find it hard to believe there isn't anything you can do if they didn't inform you of the court dates. I am so sorry about all this and will be in prayer for you!! Is there anything we can do to help?? You are not a bad mother or failure. Hugs your way
ReplyDeleteoh my god. wow. i'm so sorry tammie! you will be in my thoughts!!
ReplyDeleteTammie I will keep you in my prayer's! (((HUGS)))
ReplyDeleteYour family and you are in my thoughts during this difficult time. Best of luck to you!
ReplyDeleteTammie... you are NOT a bad mom OR a failure..Life just tests us sometimes in ways that we think we cannot get through. You guys WILL get through this...I am holding your family in my thoughts and prayers...keep your head up and stay strong..that will help carry you through this time.
ReplyDeleteHUGS Wish I could do something to help...
I hate to hear anyone having these troubles. You are not a bad mom...you are just living in 2008!! we are all struggling!! Has nothing to do with being a failure!!
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry Honey. I really was hoping for the best outcome. Don't feel like a bad Mom.. you had no idea you were gonna get snookered when you bought that house. It'll work out. Just try to stay positive. I'll say a prayer for you tonight...
ReplyDeleteYou are not a bad mom and losing your house is not a reflection on that one bit! You have hit hard times...we all are there right now. I confidently believe that you will get through this. Perhaps you can go stay in one of those extended stay hotel places for a bit once it gets too cold to camp (if you haven't found a new place by then). But always remember that your HOME is where your family is, not the roof over your head or the walls that surround you. Find comfort in your kids and know that we are all thinking of you and wishing you well.
ReplyDeleteUgh...Tammy I'm so sorry! I have been in your situation before. We got evicted out of our first apt. when J was just a tiny baby. The manager was a bitch who decided she didn't like that we paid late two months in a row..and booted us. She up and refused our rent and sent it back to us. It got lost in the mail and I had to have the money orders reissued. In the meantime we had to live with my parents for a month. Your not a failure as a Mom..shit just happens sometimes and we have to pick ourselves up and dust ourselves off and move on. At least they are giving you 15 days..we had 24hrs. Though 15 days isn't anything either. Isn't A in the military? Or am I mistaken? Is there something they can do? Try local churches..don't be afraid to ask for help. I've had to recently. Kids are great ..they handle things way better than we do..and they bounce back like that! The whole country is suffering right now..people are losing their homes everywhere. It's awful. Please keep in touch and if you want my cell number just ask..we can text or something. Keep your head up! {{{HUGS}}
ReplyDeleteTammie, I'm really so sorry. It's a good thing rhat kids are resilient. Things happen for a reason...I really believe that. Lately, I've had to!
ReplyDeleteAsk for help if you need it, okay? Churches help, some will put you up in a motel if they can't find an apt. for you, so please don't worry too much.
And, DH is in the military, like tigerlily mentioned above, right? What about base housing? They must do something if you don't have a place...unless he's AWOL.
Anyway, there is help out there, so don't be afraid to ask. I was just talking to a lady at lunch today about this kind of stuff!! She gives out gas money, too! And oil for your tank this winter, or whatever you need for heat...it's money they give. You don't have to freeze!! Good luck. I'll say a prayer...
HEY now. This sucks, YES. BUT, it does NOT mean you are a bad Mom. You CANNOT say that. Bad Mom's are the ones that lose their house because they are spending all their money on drugs, or gambling, or on a hot gigalow. (just kidding about the gigalow, not that they aren't expensive, I am sure they are, but I just meant the drugs and gambling was serious and the gigalow was not, but ANYWAY....) You also CAN'T stop blogging or talking to all of us, we are your friends and you shouldn't isolate when you are struggling, you should depend on the people that care about you.
ReplyDeleteYou are going to make it through this, I wish I could tell you how or help you with it somehow, but I don't have those powers.... so all I can do is pray for you. You can count on me doing that. (hug)
How did you lose a lawsuit you didn't know about? That sounds like crap...so does only 15 days to get out....something isn't right!
ReplyDeleteThey are all right...you are NOT a bad mom AT ALL. I wish you guys all the best...keep in touch with your blog pals and vent when you need to. In the end you all have the most important things....each other!
I am so sorry....The situation sucks but you are not a failure or a bad mom. I can't believe that they are only giving you 15 days to get out.
ReplyDeleteYou and your family is in my thoughts and prayers. HUGS!
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I can't believe they are only giving you 15 days. You are in my thoughts. Best of luck!
ReplyDeleteDitto on all of the above. You are going through a rough time right now, but it is not a reflection of who you are as a mom or person. Things will work themselves out. Reach out to anyone and everyone right now, don't isolate yourself. Check out the churches, talk to a social worker. There are things you can do, you just need to ask for help.
ReplyDeleteA bad mom wouldn't care. You do. This really sucks. I'm so sorry. You will make it through this, I know you will. (((hugs)))
ReplyDeleteguh! it's only natural to feel as you do. it's horrible to not feel like you can provide but you are providing love and that's more than many children have. This will turn around, you'll see.
ReplyDeleteOMG! Something is so crazy here. How can you lose a lawsuit that you didn't know about? Where was your notice to a court date. Did the lawyers settle out of court or something? Are you able to appeal with a new lawyer? Cuz, I'd sure check that one out.
ReplyDeleteAND don't say you are a bad mom. That is NOT true. And please don't isolate yourself. I know it's going to be rough and you've got lots to think about now but remember we are here for you.
Oh I forgot to say if you do decide to check into appealing with a new lawyer check out Pro Bono lawyers who pick up cases and do them for free. Maybe you qualify for that type of help. And why did your current lawyer say it was over, nothing more to be done?
ReplyDeleteOh my god. Tammie...I'm so sorry. I have no words. iw ish I could be there for you
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry. I wish there was something I could do. ((HUG)) It will get better. Just wait and see.
ReplyDeleteYou are not a bad Mother, OK?
Oh my gosh! I cannot believe this! I am sooo sorry Tammie! Wish there was something we could do! u and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers! Luv ya! And I agree w/everybody else..ur NOT a bad Mother!!!
ReplyDeleteBad moms are the ones that don't give a sh*t. Remember home can be anything. a loving home no matter what it is, is the best
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry things are going so badly for you right now...please keep in touch. I am going through pretty much the same thing...I think I can help support you through this
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