Ok, I am in a 'Blog YOU a question' mood, so here goes ...
Have you all seen "Back To The Future" ??
Well supposing that you have seen it, do you remember the part when Marty goes back in time to be sitting at the table with his own mother at the same age he is ?
Well, this made me think ..... IF YOU could go back in time - and be in a similar circumstance,
.... Do you think that you would be your own parents friends ?????? What do you think you'd think of them at that age ?
AND ... If YOU could be you NOW and have to meet your 'teen self' ... what do you think you, would think of you ?????
As for me - I could tell you that I have actually talked to my mom somewhat about something like this ... She was born in Illinois and has two other siblings, both were/are drug users. She has told me alot about the way she was as a teen, graduating in 1964 and having my half sister a year later.
I can tell you that from the stories I have heard from her, I would not most likely be my own mothers friend at that age. (17- 19 ?) **She smoked, drank (alot) and used some drugs ... and did things I never even, ever wanted to hear. (lalalala as I cover my ears and cower) She was more of the "Greaser" type, and hung with the guys wearing the leather jakets and white socks .. I seen pictures and I didn't know what to think of her ! Surely, That WASN'T MY mom ! ha ha !
And so after 2 marriges and 2 kids - being drunk or so called stories of what I hear is how my parents met ..niiiiice huh ?
As for my father, I know VEEERY little about his growing up, I have only heard about 3 things and those aren't much ... how he was called "Preacherboy" for a while because he wanted to go to church and how he got bit by a dog or stung by bees, he was born in Belzoni, Mississippi and has 9 brothers and sisters .... other than that I have NO IDEA what he was ever like at my ages of growing up. We don't even have pictures of when he was young due to tornadoes where he grew up and my Granny losing everything. My dad REFUSES to talk about his past or to me for that matter, so I really could not tell you if I would have been his friend or not .... but taking a gander at how he is now, I am going to guess not.
SOOO.... I have NO idea how I became so well off, everyone else in my family has used drugs, but maybe it was because I was basically shoveled off to church quite alot - free day care and I was out of thier hair. You can say I was raised there , but seriously, my mom was quite sick alot as I grew up and going to church also became a nice place to get away too.
As for meeting my own self 17 years ago when I was about 16. I would have to kick my own ass. Well, IF I could go back knowing what I know ...
I never wanted to have sex before marriage, but I did. I never wanted to really live quite so negativly as my life seems right now ... I have a bad way of letting other folks influencing me sometimes, so that in it self has had it's own effects. Anyway - if I could know and could tell myself , I would make sure my kids were raised a little differently.
As for what me as a teen would think about me now. Well, honestly I would prolly think I was a dork .... I have done what all of us (I think) say they won't do - ya know ... tell your kids no - when if it was you as a teen - you'd of said yes or something. I have caught myself showing signs of my parents, like with "Someday you're gonna have kids just like you" ... yea, my mom said that to me. I do - do things better I would like to think . but I still think, I would think I was too dorky. haha, but I also recognize that I wanted a christian family as a teen and I do regret not doing that whole heartedly, so that I seriously DO regret. I think in my 20's tho, I just didn't want to SEEM "UNCOOL".... I really shouldn't have spent so much time worrying about what others thought, it was My life not thiers...... right ?!
So anyway ..... don't matter to me if it is long or not, I LUV to read everyones points of veiw ...
WHAT WOULD YOU DO ???
**(and I was trying to judge anyone for smoking or drinking - we are adults now, that is different than as a teenager - well, if you ask me. So I hope I didn't insult anyone ...ok? Just not what I choose to do and that is ok too ! :O) we all have the right to chose. )
Hmmm. If I went way back in time and met my parents as high school teens, would I have been their friends? My Dad: Probably not. He was a bit of a goof-off, and didn't get good grades. So the high school aged me wouldn't have even been in the same classes as my dad to even really get to know him. My Mom: Possibly. She was super smart and pretty much the only thing she did to act-out as a teenager, was to mouth-off to her parents. I was the same way. We'd have probably been in the same smart-kid classes, so I'd probably have been at least friendly with her.
ReplyDeleteWhat would I do if the me now met the 16 yr old me? Hmmm. I'd have probably told myself to lighten up. That all this stuff they were telling you was so important in school, WASN'T. That there was no need to think teachers knew everything, because they don't. You have to show them the respect they're due as teachers and being in charge at school, yes. But you don't have to be scared of them and think they rule your life. Because really, when push comes to shove, Mom and Dad's taxes were paying their salaries, and when the teacher is out of line, there are many different recourses. I'd have also told myself to stop dreaming and wishing for the time when I'd be able to live on my own and do my own thing my own way, and have no one to boss me around. Because one day I'd be waking up in my mid 30's and be like "Sh*t, where did the time go????" I'd have enjoyed the ride alot more, and not spent so much time waiting for future things to come.
But then hey, I keep thinking how sad it is that I spend so much time waiting for/looking forward to/dreaming of the weekends, when I should really spend some time enjoying the days themselves as they pass. Sometimes it's incredibly difficult to do that.
If I went back + met my parents as teens would I be their friend? I don't think so.
ReplyDeleteWhat would I think about myself if I met the teenage me? I was a normal teen so I guess I would have liked myself.
Oh, man...what thought provoking questions.
ReplyDeleteIf I went back and met my parents...ummm. Well, my mom seemed like the type of person to make friends VERY easily (she STILL is like that). She always cares SO much about everyone. Back then I'm sure it was very admirable but coming from the 'daughter' standpoint it just seems TOO much. Sometimes it seems fake (but I know it's not). Anyway..back to her back in the day. Yea, I guess I'd be causal friends with her...it's kind of hard to tell....just because we don't have the best relationship now (not that we fight a lot she is just so different than I am).
As for my dad. I don't really know much about his childhood but I think my personality and his are very similar. More of a stay at home type with a few close friends. I do know we have a very similar sense of humor. So, yea...he is the person I'd like to go back in the days and hang with and see what he was really like.
If I could go back to me as a teenager...I'd tell myself to get out more. Get more involved with stuff. I was part of the yearbook club and a member of a group through church and that was about it. I had a few close friends but not too many. But then if I DID get involved with more stuff that might have changed the person I am today. And I like the person I am today. So, I guess I didn't answer that question too well.
Thanks for the question! :)
Not sure but possibly.
ReplyDeleteAs far as changing my own past life sure but it is not possible so I do not dwell on it.
If I was me now and went back and met my parents as a teen. Yep, I would have been friends with them. We are alot alike now. But I have changed too. I was a rebel, hung out with the "cool crowd", which meant I followed what was "cool" and didn't live the best. :( So if I was me THEN and them THEN. We would not have got along. But, if I was me NOW, and them THEN, I would be friends with them. Does that make sense?
ReplyDeleteAs for me? Ha. Yeah, I would have gone about things differently! I would have been nicer to people. Listened to my Mom and Dad ... Cause guess what? They were actually RIGHT about quite a bit .. Imagine that. Hahaha.
I guess I am quite thankful to have had good parents. So many people I know how a really bad childhood. Drunks for parents. Them not getting the love or care that they needed. And now? They resent them. it really makes me sad. I don't know what I would do if I didn't have a Mom to turn to now. She is one of my best friends.
If I were to go back in time and be my parents friends, I would say sure, I'd probably be my moms friend (although I might have been a bad influence on her, **not to bad though**) My mom hasn't ever had a drop of alcohol in her life and never smoked a cig. Wow, now thats impressive, right?!!! My dad, I'm not so sure. Think he might have been somewhat of a rebel. lol!
ReplyDeleteAs for me being my own friend, that just seems weird to even think about! Maybe I would that way I could get myself to open up. I was somewhat shy during high school. That all changed now though. lol!
BTW~ Back 2 the Future used to be one of my fav. movies!! ;0)
Sounds like me a bit, I didn;t havea drink till last August and I have never smoked a cigarette either, and all my family smokes.
ReplyDeleteI don't think I would be my mom's friend! Is that bad?? Maybe my dad's but I am not sure!!! I think I would be my friend but then maybe I would understand why I don't have very many friend in person if I were my friend! That I would like to know!! I love Back 2 the Future! We have all of them! Hugs
ReplyDeleteOOOh, I totally understand that ! I feel that exact way about myself.
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